What is an Aura?

What is an Aura?

I often wondered what exactly people meant when they talked about “the aura” and what relevance that had.

What did this mean?

It wasn’t until after I studied Crystal Therapy and Reiki that I began to have an understanding of energy.
The aura is the magnetic field which is around all living things; people, animals and plants.
It surrounds the whole body and is the electromagnetic field of energy which extends around 4-5 feet (in an average healthy person).
This aura represents your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual energies.
The aura is often seen as a mix of fine colours, which represent different parts of a person.

It can easily be seen by those who have clairvoyant abilities (this is a term used for those who can see psychically).
Most people have an ability but may not have explored it or may not want to explore it.
The aura of a person is directly connected to the level of health of a person.
A person is considered to be healthy in terms of physical vitality, mental clarity, emotional well-being, as well as highly positive spiritual energies.
So a person who is healthy at all these levels has a bigger and brighter aura.
In the case of an unhealthy person on any of these levels the aura would be closer to the body and denser/darker in colour.
Everything that is living has an aura or magnetic field around it.
Animals and plants have an electromagnetic field around them; if there were no aura there would be no life.
The first aura photo was created by the scientist Nicola Tesla in 1891.
Much later, around the 1980’s, Kirlian photography was invented by a man called Guy Coggins.
He felt driven to create an aura camera to measure the human energy field and thus create a powerful tool for therapists and healers.
It is important to keep the aura free of negative influence so that we keep our physical body healthy.
Negative influences can also be described as dense energy, or blocks, which we can inadvertently pick up from both environments and people.

It is as simple as recognising that if you are in close contact with people who have a very negative attitude, your aura will pick up on that energy; it filters through to your physical body and you may feel negative and low yourself.
In comparison, you will feel energised and happy if you are in contact with people who are positive.
Energy hygiene includes letting go of any physical ‘stuff’ which you associate with the past or situations which no longer serve you.
Therefore, having a good declutter of your home is very beneficial for your energy in general.
When you regularly begin to keep your auric field clear you can actually attract new things into your life.
The easiest way to cleanse your energy field regularly is to burn sage.
Smoke is very cleansing and links back to ancient native American rituals.
Dried sage plants were used to call upon ancestral spirits and this smoke would cleanse any conflict, illness or evil from the energy field of a person.

Give your home a good cleanse; open all the windows so as not to set off the fire alarms!
See or sense all negative energy releasing from your aura and your environment.
It is also beneficial to use an oil burner or diffuser and use a drop or two of frankincense essential oil, which also helps to change the energy in your home and around you to a more positive state.


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What are Attunements?

What are Attunements?

The word Attunement has been adopted by practitioners of Energy Medicine, to mean that a client is ‘tuned in’ to receiving and utilising universal energy, for the purpose of healing themselves and others.  It was originally developed by Lloyd Arthur Meeker as a feature for his spiritual teachings in 1929.

In 1949 Albert Ackerley, a chiropractor practising in Toronto, met with Meeker and began to experiment with offering long distance ‘treatments’, which he later called ‘attunements’.  In other words, clients receiving healing when not in the physical presence of the practitioner.  In 1993, a World Blessing time was established for practitioners to share a time of collective Attunement and healing prayer. In the ’80s and ’90s, the teaching and practice of long-distance Attunement was developed further.

So in essence, a practitioner transmits universal energy through their hands and thoughts to the client, and this helps to increase the client’s energy flow, release blockages and, therefore, open them up to their full potential.

The word attunement is now used as part of Energy Medicine training, which incorporates powerful healing for the recipient, along with allowing them to transmit that energy to others.  Universal energy flows around us and through us.  It is everywhere.  An attunement helps you to open up to that, and to become much more aware of it than you normally would.

You will see this term used in many healing systems, such as Reiki, Rahanni, Sekhem and Angelic Reiki.

When we are infants we are much more in tune with universal energy, and as we become habitualised to this world, we begin to lose our awareness of it.  After an attunement many people report that they can feel energy flowing through their body, specifically their hands, though everyone has variations of what they feel and the intensity.

During an attunement, the teacher will ask you to sit quietly, meditate or focus on your breathing.  The teacher will then draw symbols, which represent the various healing energies, placing them into your Aura* (*magnetic energy field that extends around all living things), and drawing them onto your hands.  This is offered as a sacred ceremony, so it would be important that you allow yourself to rest and integrate for the whole day of your attunement.  Some teachers may recommend that you purify yourself beforehand, by fasting or eating clean, and cutting out all toxic substances, such as alcohol.  This is to help you to fully commit to the process physically, as well as mentally, emotionally and spiritually.

In the days after an attunement you may have a healing response, which is sometimes referred to as a ‘healing crisis’.  This can last for a few weeks, and you may experience fluctuations in both mild and intense sensations.  For some it can be purely emotional, and for others there may be physical symptoms, such as mild headache, or suddenly disliking a food that you have always eaten.

The attunement process is performed as a ceremony, which has many steps, and this process is to help the client to be open to and fully assimilate the power and importance of taking this step in their life.  However, it actually is not a requirement for the spiritual realms, because it is accepted that you are already divine beings of love and light, who can connect to universal energy whenever you want to!  From this perspective, the attunement is simply a way of remembering that you are always connected to the light.

As humans, we have rituals which appear in every culture and belief system, from a marriage ceremony, to graduating from university, celebrating an anniversary or a birthday.

This is because we imbue them with special meaning to mark a phase in our lives.

I have personally been attuned to a variety of healing modalities and each one has been a very different experience.  I have also attuned clients to universal energy, and have enjoyed the beauty and deep connection of this process.

I now offer healing attunements to clients remotely (via distance) as a stepped process.  This begins with heart connection; ensuring that the individual is suitable for the sessions, the attunement itself, following up and then further once monthly sessions with chat support, over a period of 6 months.

Many people believe that once they are attuned to universal energy they will never become unwell again.  This is not the case, because healing happens over time, when the body and consciousness is ready to let life challenges go.  Healing can be a messy process because inner work happens and so shifts take place in a client’s real life, i.e. they may feel the need to change job, or move, or discover their relationship has come to a close.  Being attuned, though it can feel magical, does not suddenly make you impervious to life’s ups and downs.  However, it can empower you to make changes in your life, and heal yourself naturally as you go through those changes.

To change our lives, we must allow things to leave us so new experiences and people can come in; much like cleaning out your wardrobe of old clothes so we have space for the new ones.

Being attuned to universal energy also means that your psychic ability may increase, or your ‘inner knowing’ of things.  Everyone on the planet has the potential to tap into this ability, though many are skeptical, most will admit they have had a good or bad feeling about a person or place, and been shown that their feeling was right – or thought about a person they haven’t heard from in years, only to have them ring five minutes later.

If you would like to discuss how being attuned can help your journey to wellness please get in touch via my email carol@myinnerself.co.uk



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Mental Health and Wellbeing

Mental Health and Wellbeing

I have been feeling a pull to write about my personal experience of being diagnosed with ‘depression’.

Around the year 2000 I was working in a training centre, helping to support disadvantaged clients with training, advice and a limited amount of counselling.  I was in my 30’s, with children aged 7 and 8, working full time, driving 60 miles a day, studying several diplomas to improve my education (to earn more money and be of more assistance to clients), and my husband was working abroad, and when he came home we rarely had quality time as he had 2 children from his first marriage (who were then 12 and 14) and we would have them at weekends.  My mum was living with me as she was on a waiting list to move to my county, and so she helped around the home.  She was in her 60’s and retired and we clashed a fair amount of the time on most topics of child rearing and housework.

After a year or two of living like this, I began to notice something.  Or rather, I began to notice the lack of something.

Circa 2000. Not feeling myself.

I realised I was finding it hard to feel.

What I mean is, I was finding it hard to laugh at funny films, or play with my children, or want to do anything for myself that wasn’t associated with work.

I felt like my life was on repeat, wake up, go to work, come home, study, go to bed.

We had only been living in our house for about 2 years and had been making refurbishments to it.  One day a delivery of slate arrived for our inglenook fireplace.  When the chap delivered it he was chatting away, telling me what lovely slate it was and what a lovely day it was, and what a lovely house I had,… and all I felt was wretched.

He looked a bit concerned and then tried to cheer me up by saying how nice the fireplace will look when we have the slate down.

And all I said was     ‘Well I thought it would be nice to get the house straight for my children, so that when I die they can sell it and have plenty of money…’

The delivery man was really taken aback and said     ‘Blimey love! That’s a bit dark!’

But I was more surprised that those words had even come out of my mouth! And as the man walked back to his lorry and I turned to go into my home, the tears began welling up, and I realised …….. ‘I do not feel well 😥  I think I need to get some help.’


A short time later I went to the doctor who suggested that I had a mental illness called Depression.  I was offered Antidepressants and counselling.  My first reaction was that I did not want to put chemicals into my body, mostly because I worried I might have a physical reaction and then not be able to look after my children properly.  I decided to try the counselling and was offered six appointments.

The sessions were held at my local surgery, in a small room with a large table in between the therapist and myself.  I was asked a succession of questions and when I started to cry, a box of tissues was pushed slowly across the table towards me, with no words of comfort or change of facial expression.  It was all very surreal.  The only suggestion I took from that one hour session was that I wasn’t having enough rest time.  I didn’t connect with the therapist at all and decided to investigate other ways to feel better.  I did not return for further sessions.

I reluctantly decided to ask my manager to reduce my hours to 4 days a week, and had my day off on a Friday.  I then searched for someone to help me.  At first I wasn’t sure what that would look like, but I knew that I didn’t want talking therapy, because going over and over the same thing wasn’t helping me.  I knew I didn’t need to be given a label for feeling sad, or medication.

After a short time I found a health practitioner, who did kinesiology (muscle testing) which would tap into my body and find out what I really needed.  I was a teeny bit sceptical at first, but decided I needed to have a leap of faith and try something different.  If I didn’t like her or the therapy I simply wouldn’t go back.

I attended the sessions over a period of a couple of months, and each time I went I was given homework and we discussed what worked, what didn’t, and what to do next.  It was a very proactive approach and for the first time in years I felt like I was getting somewhere.

Suggestions to improve how I felt

The muscle testing sessions ascertained that my diet wasn’t helping with my mood and I needed to make few small changes.  The microbes in our gut have a surprising influence on our brain and therefore on our mood.  It was recommended I change the following:

  • Eat more veggies
  • Use extra virgin olive oil
  • Add more beans and pulses to meals
  • Reduce my meat portions as this was more digestible
  • Reduce caffeine
  • Drink more water

I tried a variety of fruit flavoured teas and also flavoured my plain water with slices of fruit (apples for example) just to add a little taste.  It transpired from my sessions that I was quite dehydrated and simply not drinking enough water.

Dehydration equals stress, the body makes chemicals and it needs more water, which makes more dehydration, which creates more stress.  😞

It was recommended that I try a mindfulness technique, where I sit still in a chair for 10 minutes and do nothing.  At first I thought this was just plain daft, as when I started I found that it was incredibly difficult to adhere to without constant fidgeting, sighing, moaning; in fact a whole load of behaviours to make me want to totally give up on something so simple!  Eventually I was able to “allow” myself to sit still, and found myself gazing into my front garden, which was surprisingly relaxing.

The therapist suggested that I watch funny films.  Of course I just felt that I really didn’t want to do that at all!!! It almost annoyed me, and it nearly made me stop going for sessions.  However, I decided to persevere because I was desperate to feel better, and so I made sure that I watched small amounts of silly stuff to see what would happen.  At first it was so hard to relax I just couldn’t seem to find anything funny, but then I discovered slapstick, which would provoke little laughs here and there, and that really felt good!

Laughter decreases stress hormones and increases immune cells and infection fighting antibodies; it triggers the release of endorphins, which promote an overall sense of wellbeing and increases blood flow to protect the heart.

Her last suggestion was to have some regular healing to get my body back into balance.  I had never experienced just laying down on a couch to relax.  The only time I just laid down was to go to sleep at night!  I had some gentle hands on healing, which really helped me to sleep better at night and made me feel more connected to how I felt.  I was then able to express how I felt to my family, and because I did that I felt a bit more understood, and I felt better.

I realised that my body was responding to overwhelm and that practical and grounded techniques really helped me to regain my balance.

Not too long after that I changed my job, but decided to keep my working week to 4 days because it really helped.  A few years later I reduced my working week to 3 days, which felt even better!  😄

Recap of what I did

  • Looked at my Work/Life balance and reduced my working hours
  • Changed my diet slightly; had less processed and sugary foods
  • Reduced my caffeine intake
  • Increased my intake of water
  • Included a short Mindfulness session into my day
  • Tried laughter therapy
  • Started having regular healing sessions

My thoughts about receiving a Mental Health diagnosis

The traditional approach to emotional distress is to offer a medication and then to give the person a label.  This is not helpful and sometimes the labels can stick with people for a very long time.  Medications can have long lasting side effects and create other disturbances in the body, such as raised blood pressure, insomnia, weight gain, blurred vision, etc

My thoughts from my own experience, and now also from treating many hundreds of clients, is that emotional distress comes from one or many events in a persons’ life where they had overwhelming feelings that they were unable to cope with.  These feelings include grief, pain, anger, rejection, shame and guilt.

All of these emotions are perfectly normal for a human being to experience if they have suffered in some way.  Personally I found that my experience, which I will now call ‘low mood’, had gone on for too long without intervention, until a tiny catalyst gave me some perspective and I decided to take action.

If any of this blog post has resonated with you, and you would like to try another approach to staying healthy mentally, emotionally and spiritually, please do get in touch via my email carol@myinnerself.co.uk




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Crystals for immune system health 💎

Crystals for immune system health 💎

It is important to increase the body’s overall basic resistance.  Common sense tells us that we need physical exercise in fresh air, to sleep with an open window, regular tapping of the thymus gland (on the breastbone, between the heart and the throat – see below image), good organic food whenever possible and around 8 glasses of plain drinking water each day (excluding tea, coffee and flavoured beverages).

Tapping the thymus gland boosts the immune system.  You need to tap about 15 to 30 seconds to destress your body and to ‘wake it up’.  You can do this at any time in the day you feel sluggish, and it is safe for your children to do as well.




Crystals can also support and help both for protection against illness and for regeneration of the immune system.

Chrysocolla cleanses the tissues and the lymphatic system – it also helps with reducing stress.






Epidote helps to rebuild the immune defence system after severe illness and to normalise body functions.  It eases frustration, grief and self-pity.



Heliotrope helps with inflammation, supporting the immune system by neutralising the cause of infection.  It helps to protect your energy field from unwanted influences.  It is also known as Bloodstone.



Ocean Jasper strengthens the immune system, and is one of the best at doing this.  It brings in new energy and a new impetus to the healing process.



For all these crystals you can wear them as a necklace, pendant or make a gem essence from them.

It must be stressed that this is not a substitute for professional medical help.  However, it is important to take responsibility for one’s own health; you do not need to visit the doctor every time you feel unwell.  This places a burden on the health service.  It is therefore vitally important that we take better care of our bodies and well-being.  These alternative methods have no adverse effects and are non toxic.

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FOMO!  (Fear of missing out)

FOMO!  (Fear of missing out)

Wikipedia meaning :

Fear of missing out is described as “a pervasive apprehension that others might be having rewarding experiences from which one is absent”.

This social anxiety is characterised by “a desire to stay continually connected with what others are doing”.  FOMO is also defined as a fear of regret, which may lead to a compulsive concern that one might miss an opportunity for social interaction, a novel experience, a profitable investment, or other satisfying events. 

In other words, FOMO makes you feel like you’re making the wrong decisions on how you are spending your time!

Wanting to feel connected to others is a legitimate psychological need.  We are here on this planet to connect, learn, teach, mentor, befriend, love, disagree with and generally heal our karmic patterns with others.  We were not meant to live alone.  We only learn through relationship with an ‘other’.

However, with the expansion of the internet and social media, much of our interaction is online – so we can begin to rely on these methods of connection, and forget that we used to meet up face-to-face, make a telephone call or write a letter.

Social media is now an official addiction.  How do we determine this is the case?

Are you able to turn off notifications on your phone and limit your time scrolling through content?  Or do you have an uncontrollable urge to be online to the detriment of the rest of your life? – for example; neglecting your children or using social media when you are with family and could be chatting to them instead.

Social media platforms such as Facebook, snapchat and instagram produce the same neural circuitry that is caused in gambling and recreational drugs to keep consumers using their products as much as possible.  Studies have shown that the constant stream of retweets, likes and shares from these sites have affected the brain’s reward area to trigger the same kind of chemical reaction as other drugs, such as cocaine.  Neuroscientists have compared social media interaction to a syringe of dopamine being injected straight into the system.

Social media provides an endless amount of immediate rewards in the form of attention from others for relatively minimal effort.  Social media use becomes problematic when someone views its usage as an important coping mechanism to relieve stress, loneliness or depression.  This is because it provides continuous rewards which are not being met in real life and a person can get stuck in a spiral of addiction to technology, rather than change their actual life to address the problem (such as speak to a therapist, start an exercise routine, join a club etc).

During this time of Covid-19 use of social media is huge.  We want and need to stay connected.  But it is all too easy to become overwhelmed with articles, memes, videos, pop up self help groups, the list is endless.

I recommend a Digital Detox – if you feel overwhelmed by social media but afraid of missing out and don’t want to disconnect completely, try these steps:

  1. Turn off sound notifications
  2. Only check social media sites once an hour
  3. Do not check your phone during meal time at all
  4. Leave your phone in another room at night, so as not to disturb your sleep – if you use your phone as a clock or as an alarm, buy a separate one

I have now limited the amount of time I spend on social media, even though I am aware it is a way to help and support people, and a useful marketing tool.  I am also noticing how there is control over content.  This automatically triggers warning bells, as we need to be allowed to have opinions and share those opinions, however controversial, for that is the nature of being human and having a unique experience on this Earth.

If you feel any of this blog post has triggered you in any way, please feel free to get in touch via my chat app (which is not attached to social media), or via email here or the website below:




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How to look after yourself during this time ……

How to look after yourself during this time ……

Hello, and I hope you are all doing well during this challenging time.  It is so important to keep our energy clear and the simplest ways are often the most effective.

  • I recommend using Epsom Salt baths to keep your aura clear (soothes the body with high levels of magnesium), or if you don’t have a bath, you can soak your feet for 20 minutes of relaxation, whilst listening to inspiring music and drinking a herb tea! Ordinary salt does not work in the same way, it’s the magnesium that does the magic!
  • Regular use of Sage to cleanse yourself and your home / work environment.  This purifies the air and is an ancient ritual.  Sage is a plant and the leaves are dried and tied up into a bundle which you light with a match.  You then blow out the flame and let the smoke rise from the sage bundle – make sure you put into a heat proof dish if you are walking around your home clearing each room, watch that it doesn’t set off your fire alarm, and open the windows for a few minutes to let the smoke and the energy out into the fresh air.
  • Dr Bach Rescue Remedy (also called Recovery Remedy), is an all natural essence, which you can drop into water, or directly onto your tongue, or even make up into a spray bottle and mist around your home.  This remedy is made of plants and helps to keep your nervous system calm.  It is so gentle that you can also use it with your pets.
  • Diffuse calming blends of aromatherapy oils, such as:
    • Lavender
    • Rose (inhaling rose oil promotes calmness and reduces any tension that you may be feeling)
    • Vetiver
    • Ylang Ylang
    • Frankincence
    • Geranium
    • Chamomile
  • Keep your immune system tip-top by drinking freshly squeezed lemon juice in warm water first thing in the morning, eat good sized portions of fruits and vegetables and incorporate turmeric into your diet if you can.
  • I also recommend receiving regular healing, specifically I have a treatment called Holding Power of Light, which is offered by distance and balances all the harmonic alignment points in the body.  This helps to release fear building up.  It can be offered individually or in a group and sessions last around 40 minutes and cost £20.  If you would like more information on this, simply email me at carol@myinnerself.co.uk

Remember to stay in your peaceful space!


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